Why Am I Doing This?

Ever ask yourself this question?  Pay attention to your response because your honest answer is critical.   This little question can be so pivotal in removing stress from your life and helping you to focus on your goals.   To ask “why am I doing this?” is such a simple exercise that you can do it anywhere at any time and get instant results.   Give it a try…

I’ve used this question on everything from analyzing how I spend my free time to what I focus on as I work.   I’ve even used it to declutter my house by asking myself why I am doing certain tasks.   Ever find yourself cleaning a piece of furniture you hate?  Why are you doing it?  If you hate to clean it, get rid of it!  I have no problems taking care of the things I truly love, do you?

What kinds of things are sucking up your time…tv shows, the Internet, annoying friends or relatives?  Ask yourself  the “why” question and then look  for a way out.    Replace bad habits with good ones,  start saying no more often or work on good exit strategies when Aunt Janie calls for the tenth time to reminisce about the holidays.   Better yet, get caller ID.   :D

The beginning of a new year is the perfect time to make these five words part of your life.   Take a look around you right now and ask yourself “Why am I doing this?”  If you like your answer, by all means carry on.   If you cannot give a satisfactory answer to the question, then you have an opportunity to make a change for the better.   Get to it.   ;)


  1. Rita on January 5, 2008 at 7:18 pm

    it doesn’t work only with those things!

    a few days ago I was sitting in my bed crying because I had a fight with an old big friend of mine and we agreed we shouldn’t be friends any more.

    I asked myself why was I crying, and started answering. I found out that I didn’t know. Even though that friend was special a long time ago, now we agree we’re not that much important to each other. it’s not like I really want to be his best friend anymore, so why crying? only because it’s over? eventually, it would always be. yeah, it’s always a friend, but it made me feel better thinking that life just goes on and I couldn’t be stuck in memories.

    just by asking myself “why am I doing this?”

  2. gretchen on January 5, 2008 at 9:02 pm

    Exactly my point, Rita. You example was great! :)

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