Why Can’t Boys Have Bras?

It always surprises me how people land on my site. I realize with a title of “Girls Can’t WHAT?” that people expect to find different things based upon their mind-set at the time they are searching. (I will leave it at that but I think most of you know what I mean :D ) Anyway, when I browsed through my stats a few days ago I see the search string “why can’t boys have bras”. Do we really need to explain this? Should I write an article on this subject? Is this not being covered in Jr. High health class or what? =)) That’s like asking “why can’t girls wear jocks?” Hello. Anatomy 101.


  1. Kel1 on March 23, 2007 at 2:16 pm

    OMG, are you KIDDING me?? =))

    Well, maybe some poor kid out there has “man boobies” and feels self conscious? :D

  2. Alexes on June 17, 2007 at 8:56 pm

    omg r u kidding me boys dont wear bras becauser they do not have boobs and dont needs to impress the girls if they had boobs but they dont and bras are to support the boobs you cant weae a bra if you dont have any boobs. also if you r a guy who wants to wear a bra and you have man boobs go a head no one is stoppiing you but you can be gross and wear a bra in public if your a guy

  3. allsheer on July 21, 2007 at 7:01 am

    boys like to wear bras because they feel nice and they look nice on why should girls get to be the only ones to wear fun sexy cloths boys like to wear girls things and girls like to wear boys things its perfectly natural

  4. gretchen on July 21, 2007 at 11:23 pm

    “boys like to wear bras because they feel nice” =))

    Yeah, and we girls also wear them because they “feel nice”.

  5. missfashion usa1 on July 25, 2007 at 7:40 pm

    gawd can you get any more hilarious!!!!
    LOL i love it gawd….:d/:)>-b-);))

  6. Kelsey on July 26, 2007 at 10:23 pm

    hey, they’ve got a point that i agree with. why dont guys have sexier underwear. i know when i wear something under my clothes thats sexy i feel good, there no reason that guys can feel good. but i must say that womens boobs need to be suported by a bra, so guys can’t really relat to that reason. but hell if a guy wants to wear a damn bra so be it. not all girls wear bras, even the ones who really need to. so why can’t some guys as well wear bras. and who the hell are we to tell a guy, or even a girl that they can or can not wear something, i mean come on gretchen, i’ve seen your writing all over her about how women need to be equal as men, so when a topic like this comes up, why dont you seem to be all for the men having problems equal, does it only matter when the women are the ones with the problems, and hell all this said can also be said to Kel1…

  7. gretchen on July 26, 2007 at 11:41 pm

    Well, if a guy NEEDS to wear a bra, then fine – let them wear one if they want. I have seen a lot of fat guys that may have larger breasts, but even then they really don’t need a bra. /:)

    Bras are just something we wear out of necessity, not because we enjoy wearing them. I think the guy who posted, was just trying to start something. I almost posted a reply that said “don’t feed the troll”. ;)

    And just for clarity (and in response to allsheer who wrote “boys like to wear girls things and girls like to wear boys things its perfectly natural”), my purpose in building the “Girls Can’t WHAT?” site is not to make everything “equal” between the sexes. I think men and women have different strengths and weaknesses. But I also believe we are not limited to those strengths and weaknesses. There are some things that men may excel at now, but women may be able to rival them on equal footing in the future and we shouldn’t sit back and say it can’t be done just because it hasn’t been done yet. ;) I am also not advocating that women should dress like men or act like men, nor do I think men should dress or act like women.


  8. Herry on August 2, 2007 at 10:33 pm

    OMG. the first time hearing this that the guys now wearing a bras. its natural that girls need to wear a bra becouse they need it. esp. if the girl does’nt wear bra a nipples will pop up throug a dress thats the reason girls wear bras why does guy should do??? anyone tell me pls.

  9. keine on August 6, 2007 at 3:13 pm

    I`m a guy i have have a larger breast than one of my friends but some of my friends have bigger breasts than me and we just ware girl bras and they fit us.And my girlfriends bra fits and she dosen`t mind me wareing it.

  10. Buddy on August 11, 2007 at 5:01 pm

    I am a man and i love to wear bra because i feel good in it. I feel nice when the bra straps touch my body.

    I am wondering if wearing a bra can help increasing my boobies. So far i am wearing bra in private from past 5-6 years and i have good shapped boobies but they are small. Wish i could grow them little more.

    Any can help me in this, mail me please earthmofo@gmail.com

  11. gretchen on August 11, 2007 at 11:31 pm

    I am seriously considering drawing a smilie with a sign that reads “Don’t feed the trolls”. :-w

  12. Kel1 on August 12, 2007 at 12:34 am

    And I am seriously considering utilizing my moderation powers of DOOM and going in and deleting nearly ALL of these comments. Good grief. *sigh*

  13. jeff on August 14, 2007 at 5:47 pm

    I’ve started wearing a bra 2 days ago , and it really feels nice. Still not going out in public with it though.

  14. Buddy on August 18, 2007 at 5:33 pm

    Jeff u can do it.
    There is nothing better when u feel free wearing a bra in public. I always wear my bra all the time, in home and public .. everywhere

  15. Vega on August 28, 2007 at 11:42 pm

    First, why do they make A or AA cup bras for women in non strenuous activities?

    Second, they make ‘petals’ that stick over the nipple to prevent show-through. Wearing a whole bra just to cover nipples seems like overkill.

  16. ad on September 2, 2007 at 4:47 am

    im a 15 year old boy but fel more ecurity in a sports bra as im overweight and it also makes my breasts appear smaller
    ps im not gay im just a boy who has genetic obesity

  17. ray on September 9, 2007 at 11:11 am

    Ok i have read these comments and yes some are out there. I am not saying that a guy should or should not wear a bra. For the guys out there that do like to wear womans clothing whatever it may be I see nothing wrong with it. Maybe some guys feel insecure I know that woman do. Some woman feel insecure about there body why do you think they have so many types of bras, ones to push up,to minimize,to be fuller and so on. Same way with panties there are ones that raise your butt ones to where you see no lines though your clothes. Then you have the stuff to make you look thinner in the stomach or the legs or where ever. But guys can feel insecure about the way they feel also maybe in the way they look. Maybe they like to feel a little less rough. Maybe there is guys out there that want to see what is like to be on the softer side of things and not be gay. Guys have had there whole lives been told you are to be manly and rough, your not to cry, things like that. Well when your brought up that way you know no better, not all guys are rough. Girls would you not like a guy who can relate to you and still be just as much of a man. Wouldnt it be nice to have a guy go shopping with you and actually say i really like that that would match the shoes you have at home. How many guys that are all macho really know what you have in your closet or what you really like. Surely some females out there can live with there guy wearing there panties and stockings or whatever it is. You both might like the same thing who knows. Yes this page seems to be what girls can do as equal as men and i have nothing wrong with be equal. Society has gotten the whole role of male and female all screwed up. But there are guys like myself that feels that we should all have the chance to do the same things or atleast try. Lets be a little more openminded towards not just clothing but feelings and needs of both sexes. We are all wanting a world where we can go out and not be poked at or made fun of right? Well the only way to get that is to start being that way ourselves. There are people out there now who dont care what others think they do what they feel good doing what they enjoy. Never let anyone tell you what you can or cant to female or male.

  18. nicky on September 11, 2007 at 11:27 pm

    i have been wearing a bra now for 6 months coz i lost a bet ant to tell the truth i like it i have gone out in public with a tank top on and they are a little baggy so its not hard not to see my bra i don;t care if a strap is showing or what the color is

  19. pat on September 14, 2007 at 8:09 pm

    i wear bras becasuse they are comfortable and sexy and it help my back

  20. Misha on September 20, 2007 at 11:47 pm

    just my 2 cents
    thank God for girls boobs… without ’em (size dosnt really matter) we would collapse as a society…

  21. Kel1 on September 21, 2007 at 11:07 pm

    Just popping in (or is that “out” :D ) to say that I am wondering just what these folks are typing in their search engines to get them to this particular topic. ;) Interesting.

  22. misha on September 22, 2007 at 1:09 am

    as for me, i was doing a research paper on underage drinking, i was cross checking references for candy lightner (founder of MADD) and somehow i ended up here… but the question made me curious what people had to say bout it

  23. Bra-Guy on September 23, 2007 at 12:46 am

    This is a hot subject! Women wear suits, ties, boxers, jeans and t-shirts. Their is a big double standard. Femails can wear anything and men are called troll’s or gay. I want to know why it’s ok to raid the guy’s wardrobe and not the girls. I’m still looking for a satin underwire padded jock strap. Lingerie is made to make people feel good. This is just fabric cut out and sewed in a different shape. A great fitting bra feels as nice as a hug. Millons of flat femails wear bras everyday for nipple support? I think bras make you have a scure and confident feeling and that’s motive to keep you wearing one even if you don’t need it. Check out my yahoo group 500+ can’t be wrong! http://groups.yahoo.com/group/IndianaMaleBraFitters/

  24. June-Ann on October 1, 2007 at 3:07 pm

    Over 3/4 of all men and boys have worn women’s clothing at some time in their life. They do it for sexaul arousle, feels good, they were born into the wrong body and they think they look good in women’s clothing. There are a million other reasons. My question why shouldn’t they be allowed to do so, us women wear men’s clothing all the time, we just change the side the buttons are on, the fabric they are made out of and call them women’s clothes.

  25. Kel1 on October 1, 2007 at 3:38 pm

    June-Ann, do you have a link to where we can find that statistical study, please?

  26. Bc on October 8, 2007 at 6:28 pm

    I there i wear bras and womens underwear,they are comfy to wear.and those who don’t like it because they don’t understand.

  27. don on October 10, 2007 at 11:02 am

    i am so exaited i am boy i like bras because bras is sexy i like cut bras i meet one girl and press his bras she is very happy

  28. billy on October 11, 2007 at 6:51 pm

    i am 14 m and love dressing as a girl and my gf thinks its hott

  29. imani on October 12, 2007 at 9:42 pm

    Thats what the women do on this site. They are quick to blow something off or condemn it when they don’t understand it. Just as I am sure there are women who enjoy wearing jock straps and other mens clothing I know there are men who like to wear womens clothing. Now I don’t really understand this or necessarily advocate it. But I would just like to let you all know that there are people who post on this site who dont just automatically disregard and use sarcasm to make fun of things they dont understand (although we are few and far between).

  30. gretchen on October 13, 2007 at 11:03 am

    Not true and it’s rude of you to generalize that all the women on this site are like that when you are targeting just a select few that you disagree with. I still think this thread is entirely pointless and I am considering shutting of further comments. It in no way contributes to the purpose of this site. It was just an interesting bit of information that I spouted off one day because I found it highly amusing. 8-|

  31. imani on October 13, 2007 at 11:22 am

    I didn’t say “all the women on this site.” I just said “they,” if it refers to you then it’s your own issue. Do you just think its pointless because its not something that you can directly relate with? We all know that men don’t need to wear bras just like women don’t NEED to wear bras (lol, they didn’t in the 70’s! And its perfectly acceptable for women in other cultures not to wear them). But the original question was, “why cant men wear bras.” I think it’s more of a cultural question than anything else. Back in the day it would have been considered blasphemy for a woman to wear pants! If a woman even brought the idea up she would have either been scorned or just trivialized very much in the same way you are doing to the men who like to wear womens clothing. How is it really any different?
    Closing the thread would just further prove my point that you are very judgmental towards things you dont understand.

  32. gretchen on October 13, 2007 at 11:41 am

    I realize that you are just tying to pick fights here…every comment you have made is argumentative and is intended to push my buttons. You don’t know me and yet you are passing judgments on me and saying I am judgmental. I left this thread open (against the advice of many family members and friends) so that men who do wear them could make a rational argument.

    Just because I don’t agree with it does not make my opinion wrong. If you don’t have anything constructive to say on this site, you are free to go elsewhere. The purpose of this site is to encourage other women. So far you have done nothing but attack those who do not share your view. /:) Your opinion is just as valuable as mine, but you could at least be respectful when sharing it. :-w

  33. imani on October 13, 2007 at 11:48 am

    Actually I just agreed with something u said like 2 secs ago on another post, but whatev…
    I never said your opinion was wrong, actually if you re-read my earlier post you will see that I even admitted to not advocating or understanding men who wear womens clothing! But you are judgmental, and any person who makes people reconsider their position (even if they dont change it) is constructive. Whether you like the way I say it or not.
    Respect is not something that you can just have from me if you have shown you do not deserve it. Thanks for the heads up, i realize there are other sites than yours on the entire internet! But when i feel strongly about something I will comment, whether it’s for or against it! Thats the whole point of having a forum. Otherwise, just make it a blog so people cant respond!

  34. imani on October 13, 2007 at 11:49 am

    Not only that, the comment I made on the corrinne bailey rae song, YOU came back and tried to post something argumentative towards ME. When the first thing i said was how much i liked her and her other songs!:-?

  35. gretchen on October 13, 2007 at 11:57 am

    Ok, this discussion is going nowhere. :-t I wasn’t being argumentative – I just asked a question.

    And do not insult my faithful readers by calling them stupid. Just show some respect around here – that is all I ask. :)>-

  36. imani on October 13, 2007 at 12:04 pm

    “This discussion is going nowhere.”
    Translation: “I have no real point to make.”

    If I make a comment about the fact that I think someone is attractive, and then you come right behind me and say, “why would you judge someone on their looks?” It doesn’t take a fifth grade education to see that you were trying to be argumentative. Come on, talk about insulting your faithful readers-jeesh!

  37. Bc on October 13, 2007 at 2:02 pm

    hey gretchen do u like males who wear females clothing?

  38. gretchen on October 13, 2007 at 2:51 pm

    No – I don’t.

  39. Bc on October 15, 2007 at 3:53 am

    hey gretchen do you think its ok for men to wear females underwear and bras.

  40. gretchen on October 15, 2007 at 7:22 am


  41. Bc on October 17, 2007 at 7:47 pm

    why dont you think its not ok for men to wear females underwear and bras but females wear mens boxers.

  42. Bc on October 17, 2007 at 7:48 pm

    any males want to talk about this stuff you can email me

  43. Bc on October 17, 2007 at 7:49 pm

    any males want to talk about anything email me

  44. nicky on October 17, 2007 at 10:07 pm

    well even though i have finished my time wearing a bra because i lost a bet i at times do miss not having it on i did get the looks from people some were comments that were what you would think and some were very kind words will i ever wear one again? i cant say but it was an eye opener to say the least

  45. nicky on October 17, 2007 at 10:13 pm

    Thank you Gretchen for letting me and other people have there say

  46. Chris on October 18, 2007 at 12:51 pm

    I’m a man. I started wearing a bra when I was in my teens… only once in a while. The problem is once you wear one, you’re hooked for life. I am now in my 40’s. Yesterday I went to the leggs hanes balli playtex outlet to be fitted for a bra. They will fit men. I bought a barely there training bra. It’s cool because I can wear it under a plain shirt and no one can tell that I’m wearing a bra. I plan to wear the Training bra every day, until I get used to wearing one in public. (It’s easier to get used to if nobody knows.) After years of wearing all kinds of other bras, and trying to hide them, or staying at home, or taking them off whenever I leave the house, It is nice to wear this training bra all the time. It just really seems to make it easy to get used to wearing one all the time, even in public. Half the problem for me was being nervous in public wearing one. This is helping me get past that nervousness, and get comfortable with wearing a bra everywhere I go. I do not know if I will wear a regular bra in public, but It will be easier if I chose to do that, because I will already be comfortable with the bra itself.

    Thank you Gretchen for giving me a place to say this and maybe to help others.

  47. ELY M. on October 21, 2007 at 11:45 pm

    I just ran into this website from a google search.
    I had double mastectomy two years ago by my choice.
    Im so glad that I did surgery. I hated wearing bras for years. now I am braless :)

  48. Bc on October 22, 2007 at 5:05 pm

    hey does any males wear female underwear as well as bras.

  49. Bc on November 2, 2007 at 11:08 am

    Hey Gretchen i feel uncomfortable wearing bras in public but i feel comfortable wearing females underwear in public can you help me

  50. gretchen on November 2, 2007 at 11:14 am

    Ok – I’m locking this thread. First time I’ve ever had to do this, but enough is enough. This is not the type of discussion I intended to have. :(