Let me just say up front that we will be referring to body parts in this article. If that will freak you out, this is your chance to close your browser window and skip this week’s post. It’s ok, go ahead and bail.
Let’s also get the terminology straight here. We will be referring to male parts as a penis and testicles and the girl parts as a vagina and ovaries. These are their real names. Learn to use them.
Ever heard the phrase “grow a pair”? I bet you have. Let’s talk about why that’s not the best phrase to use and what you could be saying instead.
For the non-native English speakers among us, the phrase “grow a pair” refers to male testicles. It is meant as a way to say “be courageous”. It implies that if you’re going to be strong you have to be male or show male characteristics.
Urban dictionary defines it as “‘Telling someone they don’t have the balls that they SHOULD have to do something ‘manly’”.
I call BS on that notion. The Girls Can’t WHAT? Site is full of courageous women, but that is just a side note for the moment.
So basically when you say “grow a pair” you’re telling that person to “be a man”. You’re reinforcing the stereotype that men are stronger and more courageous. Anyone who has read through this site knows that women are equally as strong and courageous. It’s a gender stereotype that needs to be put to rest.
So next time you feel the need to say “grow a pair” to someone, you might want to specify whether that should be a pair of testicles or a pair of ovaries.